EXIT INTERVIEW If she’s chatty after sex, consider it a compliment. Her desire for pillow talk may be a sign that she’s satisfied, a new University of California at Santa Barbara study found. When women climaxed, they were more likely to make personal disclosures after sex, possibly due to a surge in oxytocin, the bonding hormone. Testosterone can dampen your own desire for bonding, but don’t roll over: Pillow talk may boost relationship satisfaction for both sexes, says study author Amanda Denes, Ph.D.
Edited by Laura Roberson
Don’t make your phone
the lifeline for your love
life. Sharing emotions
over the phone could
threaten your relationship, a new Purdue
University study found.
When far-apart couples
revealed feelings, they
were less likely to idealize each other, which
can lead to dissatisfaction. “If self-disclosure
isn’t accompanied by
body language, it can be
hard to convey understanding and to feel
understood,” says study
author Ji-Yeon Lee, Ph.D.
If she unloads over the
phone, describe your
physical reaction (“I
wish I could hug you”).
The longer the rela-
tionship, the lower
her libido may be.
In a new Canadian
affect men’s sex
drive, but women
reported a steady
decline in desire.
A possible reason:
They may have sex
without being horny,
which could be a
libido killer for them
over the long term.
Up next: research to
assess the impact of
ON OUR RADAR
Her solo sex life may enhance your romps.
Women who masturbate typically have
larger sexual repertoires (more oral!) and
climax more easily than those who don’t,
a study in the Journal of Sex & Marital
Therapy reports. Masturbation not only
can boost her sexual confidence but also
reveals the ways she wants to be touched.
HOW WOMEN MASTURBATE
PERCENTAGE INCREASE IN YOUR RISK OF
CATCHING HERPES WITH EACH UNPROTECTED
Source: Sexually Transmitted Diseases
WHY WOMEN MASTURBATE
65% They desire sexual pleasure
32% To cope with stress
20% To lull themselves to sleep
9% Their partner is unavailable
HOW WOMEN FEEL ABOU T MASTURBATION
77% Find it relaxing
15% Consider it shameful
10% Feel guilty
9% Feel ridiculous
Women surveyed were allowed to provide more than one answer.